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People-Pleasing, Burnout, and the Power of “Yes” and “No”
I was a people-pleasing "yes" junkie...until it nearly killed me. Now, a few years after recovering from severe burnout, I reflect on my relationship to saying “yes” and saying “no,” especially at work. Audio version available.
The Pros and Cons of Routines
My observations about when self-care routines are helpful and when they are harmful. Audio version available.
Ditching the Routine
As our capacity ebbs and flows, self-care is a constant dance between discipline and surrender; pushing and trust; routine and variety. This post is a permission slip for you to gently lean into either structure or freedom. Audio version available.
8 Ways To Cope With Stress
Sometimes life requires you to keep going, even when you're really struggling. These 8 practical techniques can help you regulate your nervous system during stressful moments. Audio version available.
Chronic Pain: Somewhere Between Obsessing and Giving Up
After ten years of coping with chronic migraines, I’m asking myself: “Do I surrender to the pain or do I fight for relief?” This essay brings chronic pain into the light, acknowledging that there are seasons for resisting pain and seasons for accepting it, and wondering how to find the sweet spot somewhere between. (Illustration by Michelle Rial.) Audio version available.
Our Year Together
A summary of the wonderful things we did together this year. Everything from 2021 is listed conveniently in one place—including blog posts, care packages, and all the best highlights. Happy New Year, dear community!
A Soulful Holiday Gift Guide
Happy Holidays! Here are some soulful, care-filled, cozy, fun, and deep gift ideas for you and your loved ones. These are things I love or admire, many of which are offered by small businesses local to Boston and Asheville. Enjoy!
I've Got Your Back
What does it feel like to have your own back? To put your health and wellbeing above pleasing others? I've noticed that the more I have my own back, the more it encourages those around me to have their own backs. Like a rising tide lifts all boats, advocating for ourselves naturally helps others. Audio version available.
I’m writing a book!
I’m writing a book, and here’s a sneak peek! It's a practical guide to help stressed-out humans stop pushing and start living. In the real world, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach for coping with stress. Unlike conventional self-help, this book honors that we all have different bodies, moods, trauma histories, and circumstances. Using science and soul, I share dozens of diverse stress relief techniques you can explore in under 5 minutes.
Navigating the Weight of Global Heartbreak
This post explores how to navigate self-care and activism when you feel challenging emotions for an ailing world. When should you lean into your anger and heartbreak, and when should you let up? How can you transform your anger and heartbreak into focused action? Audio version available.
September: Moving, Back-to-School, and Global Heartbreak
An excerpt from the September 2021 email care package to subscribers, including resources and support for moving, back-to-school, and navigating a heavy heart for the state of the world. Audio version available.
[Meditation] Turning Global Heartbreak Into Focused Action
This 8-minute guided practice by Quinn Corte helps you transform your heartbreak and anger about injustices and tragedies in the world. You'll identify action steps that both fill a certain need and align with your unique capacity and gifts.
Waiting for “Real Life” to Start
What are you waiting on to happen before your “real life” can start? How can you meet yourself where you are? I'm nose-deep in this inquiry, and I’ve created a workshop to help you think about it, too. Audio version available.
Anti-Oppression & Wellness Resources
Here is an ongoing list of my favorite anti-oppression and wellness resources by BIPOC creators, authors, and educators. I'd love to hear from you in the comments: what single article, podcast episode, book, or documentary has most impacted your anti-oppression education or activism?
Contractions and Expansions
An excerpt from the July 2021 email care package to subscribers, in which I shared our new website, 5 Ways to Transform Worry, Dismantling Perfectionism & White Supremacy, and links to great LGBTQ+ Pride content.
Dismantling Perfectionism & White Supremacy
How is perfectionism an upholder of white supremacy? How is our fear of making mistakes holding us back from showing up as allies? Here are tangible strategies for dismantling perfectionism through anti-oppression work, repairing conflict, and resources for further learning. Audio version available.
How We Live Our Values
The Retreat Space is a different kind of online wellness space. We are here to dismantle white supremacy, embrace the range of human experiences, and lift each other up. Here are our core values and how we put them into action.
Keep the Change
An excerpt from the June 2021 email care package to subscribers, containing musings on embracing the uncertainty of change, lots of links to browse (especially about re-entry and reinvention), and our first essay in a series about anti-racism and wellness.
Cultivating Sustainable Hope As Activists
Reflecting on the one-year anniversary of George Floyd's murder, things have changed a lot and not nearly enough. I offer 5 ways to cultivate hope as activists when we feel overwhelmed by the magnitude and urgency of what needs to change.
Tentative and Desperate to Emerge
An excerpt from the May 2021 email care package to subscribers, about gently and consciously emerging from isolation, links and readings for this unique season we are in, and a few small Boston creative businesses to support.